I’m back again…

For an encore conversation performance. Because who knows how soon I will be able to blog again.

This conversation topic is to all the special people. Perception… expectations… and reception.

Conversation 11:

When I was growing up I felt that I was nothing special. I decided to believe that way because how could I be someone special if birthdays were forgotten, I was made fun of and ridiculed, and I was lied to on a regular basis. How could someone whose life was like that be anything special? Of course that type of life finally became intolerable to me. I made my escape when I was 17. But, I took with me the inner niggling belief that no matter what, I was nothing special.

I would wager (if I were a betting person), that most of us one way or another came to believe that we were nothing special. It seems to be a rampant problem. A problem that has contributed to things we call the norm, status quo, or just the way things are. It’s a ready made excuse that stamps out originality and smothers success. If someone reaches out, beyond their normal limits, people ask what is going on and they say, “What? Do you think you’re special?” After so much of this the results are predictable. Most people these days want to be the same as everyone else, and they want you to be the same too. Otherwise, if you “make it”, then they feel pressured to do the same. They say things like, “Things are tough all over… how can anyone make it”, “Everyone’s in the same boat”, We’re all too busy, you can’t fit in anything else”, “Working for someone else sucks, but what can you do, you have to make a living”, “I’m just an average Joe… what am I supposed to do?”, “People like us never get anywhere”, and “Business is down all over, no one can make it”.

Most people feel justified in their equally bad circumstances because, come on, it’s happening to everyone. It’s a version of something called the Law of the Lid, a self imposed limitation. A limitation that makes status quo acceptable. Expectations are lowered to make bad circumstances more palatable. The more individuals who buy into the lowered expectation, the more acceptable the ‘lid” becomes. Soon it is accepted as the norm.

But, you know what? Contrary to popular belief, it’s not happening to everyone. There are more millionaires in America every year (and I’m not talking about from the lottery here). Their appearances are on an exponential curve. Where is their money coming from? Some say that’s why no one else has money, because they have it all. I don’t believe that.

And then there are all the entrepreneurs under twenty. There are quite a number of them. They are not only successful, they are abundantly successful, as in millions of dollars worth. They didn’t give credence to the limiting beliefs of others. Age, lack of funds, lack of mobility, lack of a resume… none of this deterred them. How is it they succeeded with all the odds against them (perceived odds that is)?

The universe is unendingly abundant and ever expanding. Unendingly… you know… infinite! And expanding with new energy every moment. The only difference in a millionaire’s situation and a non-millionaire’s situation is perception, expectation and reception. The perception of your circumstances, the expectation of the outcome and the reception (ability to receive) of what the universe has for you… abundance.

Bill Gates was a college drop out. Michael Dell, Walt Disney, Henry Ford, and Milton Hershey were also school dropouts. Drop outs are billed as worthless individuals with no hope of a successful future. They didn’t buy into that perception.

So how did they do it, the millionaires, the young entrepreneurs, and the icons mentioned above? How did they combat the law of the lid and access all that abundance? How did they overcome average thoughts and average success? That’s a lot of questions. Let’s start with how these people are alike. What do all these people have in common? Well first off, they didn’t have years of learning how to work for someone else. Since they didn’t have all that wonderful knowledge, there was no plan laid out for them to follow. So, they figured out ways to make themselves successful. They also had a vision of what they wanted. A vision so strong it drove them to create it. They also didn’t let anyone tell them that their vision couldn’t happen. Their belief in their vision was enough for them, they didn’t need assurances or permission from others. They also didn’t fall down and stay down. They just got back up and kept on creating until they got the result they wanted. They were choosing their own reality by rejecting other’s perceptions of it (Adam from Mythbusters wears a T shirt that states, “I reject your reality and substitute my own”… I love that shirt). They decided to reject being average and seek the benefits of choosing to be unequal. Unequal. That doesn’t mean a snooty attitude of being better than everyone else. Everyone is special, it’s just that some of us recognize that and some of us deny that. I don’t want to deny it. I choose to be un-equal. I refuse to put up with what everyone else has decided to accept as “the way things are”.

Okay, so we are unequal. What do we do with our new found un-equalness?

We change our perception. Don’t accept the average perception that things are bad all over and are getting worse. Understand that it is our very perception that moves the energy in the universe. When we perceive a need or want or intent in a creative, positive way (I would really like to create more time to do _________), we move the energy in a high vibrational way. When we perceive a need or want or intent in an unimaginative, status quo maintaining way (I never have time to do _________), we move energy in a low vibrational way. We are outputting the same amount of energy, but getting a very different result. So be different, don’t accept or assume the beliefs of others, be unequal in how you perceive the universe.

Next, we change our expectations. Don’t have average expectations just to be the same (equal and therefore accepted) as others around you. Instead have un-average or unequal expectations. If you reach for the stars you will certainly at least get out of the solar system. Reach for Pluto and you might reach Jupiter. I don’t want to settle for a big gassy giant. I want a bright burning star.

Then, we change how we feel about receiving. In reality (reality, snicker), everyone is special. And that includes ourselves. There is no reason to feel you are only due average results of your intents. There is no reason you shouldn’t ask for more than what the average person is willing to wish for. If you are willing to settle for average success, you will only receive average success. You don’t make room for anything more. So be unequal… make room for what you want. Then know you are worthy of receiving it. That’s the way special people live life.

So, don’t be average, “Be excellent… and party on dudes.”

 

I love you all,

Donna

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